Parenting is a challenge, and it is not a surprise that many parents resort to undesirable behavior when they are frustrated. Yelling is a common pitfall that any parent can find themselves slipping into. Although it can happen without intending to, parents need to work hard to avoid this action. There are many consequences when a parent yells at a child, none of which are positive.
Here are some reasons why a parent should never yell at their children, and why one should instead seek out a positive way to discipline.
Children who are regularly yelled at when they are young tend to display uncommonly aggressive behavior once they reach a certain age. It only makes sense that a child who is yelled at eventually becomes full of anger, and that the anger will spill out at some point. If you are yelling at your child, you can be sure that your child is filling up with resentment that will negatively affect him (or her) as well as everyone around him at some point.
It can be terrifying for a child of any age to have an adult towering over them and yelling. Mental abuse is devastating just as any form of abuse is. Even if you have never hit your child or lashed out physically against them, yelling implies that violence is a possibility. Parents should be their child’s safe place in life, and their child’s most loyal advocate. Never put your child in the position to be fearful of you.
Children who are regularly yelled at have been observed to have difficulty concentrating. A child’s self-defense mechanism kicks in when yelled at, causing them to mentally remove themselves temporarily from the situation. This can lead to the child having difficulty focusing, even when they are in a safe situation.
Lack of Self-Confidence
When a child is yelled at, they begin to believe that they are not worthy of respect. For a child to learn to love themselves, they must be loved. Part of this love is by being treated by the adults in their life with respect and compassion. Yelling is the exact opposite of respect and compassion. It devalues a child and erodes their sense of self-worth.
A child who is yelled at may well grow up to yell at their own children. When you allow yourself to yell at your child, you are creating someone who will grow up and continue the cycle. Choose to stop this cycle in its tracks by speaking gently to your child and treating them with respect, even when there is a disciplinary issue to deal with. Your child, your future grandchildren, and the world at large will benefit by your self-control and compassion.
Yelling is a trap that is easy to slip into. When we yell at our children, it sets off a chain of events that is negative and very difficult to stop. Choose to show your child the love they deserve through being respectful in your tone of voice and volume of speech, and the world we are all a part of will be a better place.